In the midst of Hurricane Harvey, through all the devastation, I couldn’t help but think about the comparison to widowhood.
Right now Texas is getting a lot of attention, a lot of aid, people from all over coming to help, and rightly so! We need it! But in the aftermath of the main storm, attention will begin to slow, help will decrease and eventually, whether we are ready or not, the help from all over will die down and we will be left to pick up the remaining pieces on our own. We may still have needs, still have hurts, still need help, but we will have to learn to do it for ourselves, rebuild, create a new normal & get into a new routine.
This is very similar to what it’s like becoming a widow. In the beginning, everyone brings meals, sends cards, calls or texts to check up on you, comes over for visits, offers to help with projects, etc.and then gradually it dies down, first it’s with those who aren’t as close to you, maybe it’s casual friends, maybe it’s friends of your late spouse, but they’re usually the first the stop contacting, then you have normal friends, people you see fairly regularly but maybe don’t share intimate details with, they help for a good while, the texts still come, tell you they’re thinking of you, but then mostly, those stop coming too. Eventually you are left with immediate family and best friends to love on you and share daily lives with you.
In both these situations, no matter how long it has been, the pain is still there, the images, the memories, the grief. So if you haven’t particularly experienced either of these grievances, reach out to a friend who is grieving loss. Love on them, share a meal, pray for them, don’t forget about them as your lives move on.
In reading part of Systematic Theology by Wayne Grudem tonight, one thing in particular struck me pretty hard:
“We cannot study this subject (referring to the living God) dispassionately! We must love all that God is, all that he says and all that he does.” Deuteronomy 6:5
Y’all, loving who God is is pretty easy, loving all God says is pretty difficult because of our sin nature & loving all He does can be very hard because of our lack of understanding God to the fullest, because we are finite & He is infinite! But that does not change the fact that we still must love all of who God is & trust Him in all things!
What are some ways you do not fully trust God as a believer in Christ? I will be searching my heart and working on any area I am struggling with, will you join me? Will you trust God with everything? Finances? Health? Future decisions? Your kids? Your lost family and friends? I can say that from the moment I actively chose to trust God with Jeff’s cancer was one of the most freeing moments of my life. Don’t let fear of the unknown and the chains of control keep you from living a passionate life for Christ!!
Let Go & Let God!
I will continue on with more of my journey with Jeff’s cancer another time, but tonight I wanted to take a moment and just talk about my day. It is no surprise to me that as things have gone so well and I have seen blessings galore that Satan would try to spoil that. 1 Peter 5:7-9 says “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that the family of believers throughout the world is undergoing the same kind of sufferings.”
Now I know that my current trials and sufferings are nowhere near like those who are being persecuted for their faith, but I know that what I am doing ticks the devil off and it can be exhausting when he throws things at you that you least expect. While today was rough physically and emotionally, I will “rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18). After calling my mom and talking with her about the rough day I had, I began to just speak out the truths like “the eyes of the LORD are on those who fear him, on those whose hope is in His unfailing love,” (Psalm 33:18) and it was no surprise that “the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:7) is exactly what overtook my spirit tonight (this has been our family’s verse through Jeff’s cancer battle by the way).
So if you’re struggling tonight and wondering why trials are happening, hang in there! Search for the peace that can only come through the Holy Spirit! Speak truth into the situation! Lean into the Lord! Crawl up into the Heavenly Father’s lap tonight, that’s exactly what I will be doing! And if you don’t know Jesus, if He hasn’t saved you from your sin, please reach out to me! Let’s talk! I would love to share the hope and faith I have in Jesus with you!
That is all for the night, I’m going to wind down and let the Lord speak to me as I (hopefully) get some good rest to tackle the day tomorrow!!